Night time questions

Through pain and suffering we grow, but we do not want to get hurt or be hurting. Is personal growth the silver lining of break ups? And if so, is it enough to make us not regret that the relationship with somebody we loved has ended? How long are you allowed to grieve before you become pathetic? How do you move on? Yes, it would be nice to move on to someone else, but how to manage that when you do see less than few people worth falling for? And even if you did manage that - will you ever heal completely?

Foreign dreams

Lately I have been having all those weird dreams. They are usually easy to decipher - but I do not like what they are suggesting. Things that I thought are burried in the past, that have nothing to do with who I am now. Some are things that I know are still occupying my brain but I wish they were not. How to make my brain stop having dreams? And on the other hand - do I really want to stop dreaming?