Our personality is like a complex structure. During adulthood the base remains the same, parts are adjustable, some motifs are similar to motifs we see in others, some are unique. If we looked at the structure from above, we would see very complex and yet very simple mechanisms. But from time to time, that structure is so flooded with emotion of one kind or the other that all the logic, the laws of physics suddenly become irrelevant. Only some small parts keep peeping out of the water, suggesting that there is some sense beneath the overpowering current. And once the flood is over, we see that the base remained, maybe even some of the upper layers stayed in place, but that we will need to rebuild a lot. Figure out how to make our system function once again. Should we try preventing the emotion from getting inside or welcome the changes it triggers? Should we be scared of the destruction it can cause or look forward to rebuilding our structure?