I have got a lot of feedback on my "lack of connection with the person I was seeing", "my lack of openness about my feelings" and "my lack of directness", so I have decided that being a twenty-something no-longer-a-girl not-yet-a-woman, I should be able to work at that. To be more open and direct.
Which proved to be not so good an aproach.
Today I got asked for my phone number. By an interested guy´s colleague. I immediately said that I am in a relationship (by which I probably meant a really great relationship with the tv), which I was informed does not really matter. I was asked to think it over and tell the guy, when I make my mind up. Which was exactly what I did. The bad part is that the guy was so shy, he behaved like it did not concern him in any way and even though he never denied anything, he did not say much else either. So my attempt to be more direct and open has left me feeling like a complete idiot, talking to a guy, who was behaving like he was not even there.
Later that day, I explained the situation to my brother thinking he would empathise... with me. He looked at me, like I was nuts and explained - "you met a shy guy (stydlín in Czech). You never approach them directly." Now I looked like he was nuts - "so I should have pretended like nothing happened and leave the pink elephant in the room unspoken of? Is that what ´mature´ people do?" "Definitely! You need to ignore the question, if you dont want to say yes. And if you do, ask him out yourself."
So, I am puzzled. Despite of everyone telling me that I should be more direct and open and despite every guy-friend I have telling me that men can better handle an honest no rather than a non-specific maybe that is actually a no, I was still expected to behave like nothing happened?
Since my copy of Relationships for Dummies probably got lost in the mail, it should come as no wonder that I still dont have a clue as to what the right protocols are, when it comes to love and matters related..
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