I find that sometimes the people around you can tell more about you than you yourself. Can better predict, what choices you are about to make, even when you don't even know that you are going to be faced with a situation requiring a choice. Getting the view of the others can be helpful in realizing things.
At the same time, there is no judge harsher than your acquaintances. Even if you did nothing wrong, just a perception of possible misconduct of any sort means harsh judgement from a lot of people. And even if you explain over and over that there really wasn't any wrongdoing, the message reaches only part of those who have already made up their mind and sentenced you.
Weird, how the elderly more than anyone else seem to think that they know exactly what happened and why. My grandmother being one of them (and not the only one). She could see a small gesture, hear about a tiny detail and she was sure she knew the whole story. And even though she was so very kind to anyone, she would also judge based on her presumption of what has happened. Maybe, as we grow older, we also think that we know every pattern of human behaviour, that we can guess, what people did or say just based on a tiny hint. Can we ever?
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