The hopes and dreams that we have for ourselves are not the trickiest ones. The trickiest ones are those that we have for other people. We expect them to become who we would like them to become, do things we expect them to do, grow in the way we wish for.
The hopes that we have for someone, with someone, become a part of our love and affection for that person. We don´t admire and respect just the person standing in front of us, but also who that person can be.
If for some reason the people around us cannot (or just won´t) fulfill the dreams that we have for them, we feel cheated. And we have two or three options. Accept who they have become and love them for it, which, sadly, does not happen all that often. Or we wait around and continue hoping that the anticipated turn of events is still possible.
Or, and this is the last and very common option, we start resenting the objects of our affection. We see fault in the mere fact that they are not, who we thought they could be. We feel that we cannot really blame them, especially since it might not even be their choice (or lack of it) that prevented the development. In some cases it could have been a disability or lack of talent or death or in other cases it could have been a love or infatuation that faded. Yet the bitterness stays with us and influences our actions and we might not even be aware of its effects..
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